Marriage on the rocks? Break-ups on the rise? Divorce ala Hollywood stars — a global phenomenon? These are some of the questions becoming common-placed themes in modern day lifestyles.
In neighbouring Malaysia, highly-commercialised celebrity weddings like the recent lavish extravagance during popular singer Mawi’s and “Tudung” model, Ekin’s marriage are becoming hot gossip topics. 😦
Also, rumours milling around concerning splits between couples involved in the entertainment media have been making news headlines which have also attracted interests (or is it busy-bodiness?) amongst the Bruneian social circles.
In Brunei Darussalam itself, almost every weekend is filled with weddings, particularly on Fridays and Sundays. At the same time, divorces within the Muslim Society are alarmingly getting higher, too (statistically-speaking). No one has the right answer as to why it is all happening, particularly among younger Muslim couples…
In my honest opinion (speaking from own experience), I think the Religious Authority has to increase efforts in curbing this social phenomenon which could pose serious consequences to the socio-cultural fabric of our society. One of the ways they (religious scholars, Imams, etc.) could do is to educate Muslim couples on best marriage or family practices or something like that… I mean imagine if such divorces involve young offsprings who could be badly affected by the broken family syndrome. 😦
Now what I am about to ramble on has a disconnect to the divorce issue at hand. But how I wish all Muslim couples could take a bit of time to ponder upon this story of how at one time the beloved daughter of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalam (peace be upon him), Sayyidatina Fatimah Radhiallahu Anha (R.A.), was informed by her beloved father, the Messenger of Allah, that she would be behind another good Muslimah to enter Paradise. And Fatimah R.A. was curious as to who that lucky Muslim woman could be. Her father, the Rasullullah, then told her that she could try to find out herself by visiting her home which was not too far from where they lived.
So off Fatimah R.A. went to that woman’s house. Once there, she knocked on the door and gave her Salam greetings.
After her third Salam, the woman answered. Fatimah R.A. asked if she could be allowed entry into the woman’s residence. But the woman refused to let her in saying that she could not and would never let any visitor to enter without her husband’s permission. Fatimah R.A. insisted that she was the Prophet’s daughter. The woman simply said no matter who, she had to get her husband’s consent first and it so happened that her husband was not home then. So the woman advised Fatimah R.A. to come back the day after.
The following day, Fatimah R.A. returned to the woman’s residence. This time she brought along her two young sons, Sayyidina Hassan R.A. and Sayyidina Hussin R.A. Still, the woman turned down her request to enter her home since her husband was also not home again. Even after Fatimah R.A. explained that her two sons were in tow, the woman adamantly said that Fatimah R.A. would have to come and visit another day when her husband could give her permission to let Fatimah R.A. into their house.
Patiently, Fatimah R.A. went back home disappointed for the second day running. On the third consecutive day, Fatimah R.A. tried again to visit the woman. This time, the woman’s husband fortunately just came back home and so the woman had been given the permission to let Fatimah R.A. in. However, as soon as Fatimah R.A. stepped into the doorway, the woman instructed the Prophet’s daughter to stay put and left her standing while the woman excused herself to entertain her husband first. In front of Fatimah R.A., the faithful and loyal wife served her husband with a glass of water for him to drink. 🙂
Having seen such courteous and humble act of a highly-devoted wife, then Fatimah R.A. realised that it was that exemplary faithfulness and loyalty of that man’s wife which was duly rewarded by the Almighty i.e. to precede even the Last Prophet’s daughter in entering Heaven’s Gate! 😉 What’s this story got anything to do with divorces?!
I leave it to every woman’s wild imagination about the MORAL of the story (which was in fact, a narration from a Hadith, although not written in the right perspective or exact and accurate context…).
Wallahu A’lam Bissawab